The question came in like this: How can you help someone project the right image when they are shy and uncomfortable opening up to strangers?

For me, shy people are way easier to coach! They listen more intently and they often take the advice to heart. They have struggled with personal communications and they don’t want to go through the pain of rejection again.

Extroverts can be unruly. They are often good with people and super charming, so they think they’ve got it down. Unfortunately, they might not be looking at their own personal image or presentation so they may be missing issues that are sending potential dates the wrong way.

I know a very shy male who landed a super hot younger woman because he was kind and patient. I know an outgoing alpha-male who falls short in love because he cannot look at himself and how his words and actions are scaring off the thoughtful women that he craves.

Now, if a client panics and is seriously disabled when it comes to speaking with people, there might not be a big shift in their outcomes because dating, especially for men, takes courage and boldness. If you are always terrified, then this will never feel good.

I think the best way to overcome the fear is to discuss it, organize it, plan for it and then follow the steps.

I believe, however, that it is like stage fright and once a client is comfortable and has the stories in place, they can enjoy the process.

One note for shy men, unfortunately, women are still mostly expecting you to make the first serious move. Some will be bold but few want to do all the work. Plan for that.

I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message.

I help clients by using my digital marketing expertise to help guide their online presence – from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events.

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ