I am often asked this question and while I know I have discussed this in a prior post, I think it’s important to review the basics. But don’t worry, I will make it short and sweet.

In relation to online dating profiles there are three common mistakes:

1. Bad photos (or no photos)
2. Random or rambling bios
3. Negativity and not saying what you want

Now, WHILE actually dating, there are a million mistakes.

I see men who are emotionally closed off because they are terrified of being used or tricked. They have all of their defenses up and it backfires. Maybe they haven’t done the work yet or maybe they are really scared, but either way, being defensive is a mistake.

I see women who are too bossy and mean. I think we can all work on being more cheerful and kind, even when men make tiny mistakes. I see women who are all about the money and it makes them ugly.

The biggest mistake is thinking you have all the answers or that you know how it is all going to work out.

A healthy amount of curiosity and flexibility is useful in dating.

Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.

Coach JJ