I get questions about dating mistakes all the time and have written about it frequently, so I will be short and sweet. In relation to online dating profiles there are 3 common mistakes:
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Bad photos (or no photos)
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Random or rambling bios
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Negativity
Now, WHILE actually dating, there are a million mistakes, but these three will leave you dead on arrival.
The first two are self explanatory, but that doesn’t mean do it without help or feedback. Good photos does not mean selfies. Authenticity doesn’t mean saying every random thought you’ve ever had.
Negativity is a bit harder to navigate because you think that you’re being real or honest or open. I see men who are emotionally closed off because they are terrified of being used or tricked. They have all of their defenses up and it backfires. Maybe they haven’t done the work yet or maybe they are really scared, but either way, being defensive is a mistake.
Other negative issues included m women who are too bossy and mean. I think we can all work on being more cheerful and kind, even when men make tiny mistakes. I see women who are all about the money and it makes them ugly.
A healthy amount of curiosity and flexibility is useful in dating. Another mistake people make when dating online is thinking they have all the answers or that they know how it is all going to work out.
Love,
Coach JJ
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