Thank you for this question! I may have said this in a prior answer so I will be short and sweet:
- Bad photos (or no photos)
- Random or rambling bios
- Negativity and not saying what you want
I am shocked that will all of our modern technology, so many people do not have a decent photo of themselves. Snap a bunch, edit appropriately, and get those pics uploaded. It is super easy. My 11 year old can do it. If you can’t or won’t post thoughtful photos then maybe dating should not be a priority.
Then I talk about story-telling and the importance of the words that you use. For example, I have a gorgeous, smart client that always used “plays hard / works hard.” The problem with that phrase is that it is super masculine and men who like more feminine women might not be attracted to that description. She wants a strong, masculine male who will let her be soft and feminine at home and in their personal life She has a killer career so she does not need to boss her man around. She wants to be pampered. Work hard / play hard does not evoke feelings of soft, sexy, women.
That’s just an example and it is complex, but words matter. Especially to women, so the men out there: You have to start writing full sentences with correct grammar and punctuation, especially if you desire a smart, sophisticated, modern woman.
I am also surprised that I see so much negativity! Geez, no one wants to date a Debbie Downer! There is no need to list the fact that you refuse to date alcoholics, womanizers, cheaters and liars. Duh. Literally, no one wants to date those people, so it’s unspoken. You don’t have to say that you don’t want drama or someone who plays games. No one wants that so again, it’s assumed. Listing all the things that you don’t want does not make you seem powerful, strong, nice or fun. You sound bossy, insecure, and like a party pooper.
I’m not saying put up with those things. I am saying that your bio space is limited and should be treated like sacred ground. Use it wisely or suffer the cosmic consequences.
I would love to chat more and you can reach me here or visit me on Facebook and send a private message.
I help clients by using my digital marketing expertise to help guide their online presence – from photos to words, to the overall presentation to actual in-person events.
Thanks for this question. It really helps me to understand where you are at and how I can help.