Self-perception and Dating

I was once asked, "What can be done if there are differences between the way one perceives oneself and the perception that others have?" I thought it was a great question because this is super important and gets to the heart of branding in dating! It is really hard to analyze ourselves in any capacity. … Continue reading Self-perception and Dating

What are the Traits that you see men look for?

I'm doing some generalizations here of hetero men dating hetero women. Kindness. Ease. Quiet Strength. Openness. Vulnerability. Fun. Seriously, so men are so tired of getting the shit kicked out of them. Side rant...we as women have taken our power too far in many cases. I am surrounded by men that are bullied and henpecked … Continue reading What are the Traits that you see men look for?

How to Identify if the Person you are Dating is Worth the Effort?

I have two answers: Don't put in very much time and effort. Watch their actions and your feelings. It's like being a car salesperson and believing every person who test-drives a car is going to buy one. Some people just like test driving cars. They ask lots of questions. Take pictures. Talk about financing. Then … Continue reading How to Identify if the Person you are Dating is Worth the Effort?

What is the role of self-criticism in the development of one’s image?

It is really hard to analyze ourselves in any capacity. It's like a doctor operating on themselves or a therapist giving themselves advice. Doctors see other doctors and therapists see other therapists because they need someone skilled and objecting. I routinely ask for feedback professionally and am sometimes surprised by the information I receive. Once, … Continue reading What is the role of self-criticism in the development of one’s image?

Common Online Dating Mistakes

I get questions about dating mistakes all the time and have written about it frequently, so I will be short and sweet. In relation to online dating profiles there are 3 common mistakes: Bad photos (or no photos) Random or rambling bios Negativity Now, WHILE actually dating, there are a million mistakes, but these three … Continue reading Common Online Dating Mistakes

In Order to Successfully date Online, you need to Build a Personal Brand

With social media and the internet, the average person (first world adults) are subjected to about 5,000 marketing messages per day. PER DAY! That's a lot of images, hype, false idols, and noise. But here's what I know after 25 years in marketing: Nothing just sells itself. There is no "if you build it, they … Continue reading In Order to Successfully date Online, you need to Build a Personal Brand

What would you tell a woman who thinks loving a man is giving him power over her?

This question came up one during an online Q & A and it still makes me sad. Honestly, I would tell a woman or man who is afraid of losing all their power to a lover to see an experienced therapist. But for daters, I say giving up some power (often called compromising or making … Continue reading What would you tell a woman who thinks loving a man is giving him power over her?